Frenemies





I like to believe that one's life is a series of stations. Our boarding passes are our birth certificates. As we stop by, or better yet, pass by a station, the passes get punched. Each punch has a certain pattern, a unique design and a hidden story to tell. When the train stops by each station, we get to choose whether we want to get off and be content with the destination we chose, or decide to continue on board and let the train sweep us into the heart of the unknown. Each person carrying a ticket should have some company. Although not mandatory, however a companion sure helps through the bumps which the train faces. Whether that person accompanies you on your trip or you choose to let go of them is up to what we'll know in a moment.

Let's agree that we're all destined to meet some people throughout our journey. Some which their company could be the most exquisite thing that can happen to us, while others are just a dreadful lesson that we must swallow. While meeting new people may sound a bit scary to some of us, being deceived by them is the real ordeal here! You can befriend a person for what seems to you like eons, and not really know who they really are, then one simple act of unawareness, and poof, their camouflage is blown. The real question here is, were they really your friends who turned their backs on you, or were they just masking that friendship with a pretense behavior?

The truth is, you never just suddenly "discover" that a friend is a backstabber, you never actually lose a friend. You lose an enemy who pretended to be your friend all along.


How to spot a frenemy?

As previously mentioned, each one of us has a journey through which we gain experiences from as we add years to our lives. By time, you'll learn that not everyone can be trusted, that we're living in a world that's partly blinded by jealousy and hatred. This doesn't mean that you'll just lock yourself in a shell and avoid contact, but just be cautious when you decide who gets to take a place in your life.

We often ignore that frenemies encourage us to see things from their perspective. Always. They're constantly trying their best to burn out the light inside of us. They will do their best to bring you down emotionally. Of course, we can't forget that they'll make you feel that you're always NOT good enough.
Parents are the best frenemy-detectors, that's from a personal experience. They tell us their opinion about a certain person, only to be met with a chorus of objections and speeches defending that somebody. Then we come back crying to our parents/guardians in no time, because after all, their instincts never fail.

Always remember:


"False friends are like our shadow, keeping close to us while we walk in the sunshine, but leave us the instant we step into the shade." -Unknown

Who are true friends then?!! ðŸ˜Ÿ




 True friends, they choose you, and by choose I certainly do NOT mean pick you up, but choose to be with you. Through thick and thin, through good and bad, basically and as the book says: through it all. They don't expect favors from you to repay them back or vice versa. All that you're obliged to do is create memories and share laughs. These will form the present, for it to be tomorrow's pleasant past that you'd certainly love to look back at.
 The journey isn't always a breeze, but with the help of true friends, their precious companionship will ease things even if just a tiny bit. They'll make you cry your eyes out, only out of sheer happiness (I hope). They'll stay with you until the last breath that leaves your body, You'll just feel it when a precious gift is given to you as an irreplaceable blessing by God.

Oh and those frenemies?

Those who ditched you after getting what they wanted, do NOT realize that tables might turn one day. That they'll be the victim of nobody's  actions but themselves. You just have to sit back and enjoy the revenge you've so wanted to take being done by mother nature!

PS: Don't forget bags of popcorn and some drinks, the show might last for quite a while.


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